No matter how much you learn – love is the answer
WOW
I have had an amazing few days, whilst making massive strides in my mission to make Life Coaching and Personal Development even more available to young people around the world.
Last weekend in Amersham I trained around 50 experienced coaches in the practicalities of Youth Coaching and I am so excited about the action they have already taken and have planned.
Then I was off to Blackpool and spoke at a conference for 200 of the UK’s finest civil servants inspiring them to be the best they can be and introducing them to youth coaching!
Then I was back in London, Oxford St of all places [no I was not shopping!] Delivering the one day coaching course to 100 young people [18-25]. Once again the letters of gratitude have been flooding in, sharing how the skills learnt and the experience shared has already impacted their lives and how they have even more confidence to get out their and help the poeple they serve and love
Now today is a day of reflection for me and whilst my wife and kids are at their respective schools, I have been reflecting and giving gratitude to all the amazing gifts i have been blessed with over the years, knowledge, experiences, people and so on.
When Kate [my wife] popped back for lunch I was ready to share with her all my gratitude for the lessons that I have aquired along my journey that I am blessed to share with others…
And before I could, I noticed she was not her usual super happy, bubbly self
So when I asked she shared that she was a little upset, because a young boy that she works with had shared some pretty disturbing information about what was happening to him at home!
Now Kate being the amazing professional she is listened to him and heard all that he had to share without overtly expressing her horror at what she was hearing!
Kate and her team took the appropriate steps required and all is in hand, what i want to focus on here was that I asked Kate how she felt and do you know what she shared me?
She was concerned that if this young boy does not see change in his circumstances he may not share or confide in her or anyone else for that matter.
My response was “well he did not choose to share with anyone else before today, so at least he knows he does have someone who will listen and believe him, should he choose to share”
AND then Kate hit me with the biggest lesson
She shared that she was a little upset that whilst she had to write up a report on the matter above, she had to inform another young boy that the time she was due to spend with him had to be postponed and the little boy seemed so distraught and said ‘i enjoy my time with you 
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Kate felt really bad
And being the amazing person she is, she decided that she would catch up with the young man who she had to postpone her session with and say to him that she too enjoys their session and missed it too today and that it was a one off.
What’s the lesson here?
I told my wife I love her soooo much as no matter how much time and money I have spent with all the amazing people who have shared their wisdom with me over the years, Kate reminded me that the most important thing is to keep the most important thing the most important thing.
Love is the answer – My wife LOVES the kids she ‘works’ with and they know it
In a world where we are busy ‘helping’ step back and let the young person you are serving know that you can make time for them and that they ARE special
I Love you Katie Singha
x
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